How many of you expect people to behave the same way that
you behave? How many of you have certain expectations of people or certain
behaviors that you consider as suitable? I think we all have a few expectations
when it comes to others. For example, if you are a hard worker you expect
others to be hard workers. If you are happy go lucky, you expect other people
to be happy go lucky. Sometimes it may be difficult to understand why other
people’s thoughts, behaviors and values differ vastly from our own. But when
our expectations are not met, are we not judging others? Are we not finding
fault with others thoughts, behaviors and values because they differ from ours?
Just because someone does not agree with us, or their
thoughts, behaviors and values differ from ours does not make them wrong and us
right, or vice versa.
One definition of self-righteous reads
Confident of one's own righteousness, especially when smugly
moralistic and intolerant of the opinions and behavior of others.
Ouch!
It may not be intentional, but sometimes our behaviors may
be considered as self-righteous.
Each of us strive to walk in spirit, to exhibit the fruit
of the spirit, love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, meekness,
temperance. However, our flesh as we know is enmity against our spirit and
causes a war between the two.
Paul said in Romans 7:19-20 For the good that I would I do
not: but the evil which I would not, that I do. Now if
I do that I would not, it is no more I that do it, but sin that dwelleth in me.
It’s the flesh, the carnal nature that is quick to act, to
judge, to condemn, to think and speak things that are contrary to the truth, or
the spirit.
James admonishes us in chapter 1 verse 19 to be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath.
Why does James say this? He says this because it’s the
nature of our flesh to do just the opposite. Oftentimes we begin our rebuttal,
our answer, or our solution while someone is still speaking. How can we hear if
we are thinking about what we are going to say? Sometimes we speak without even
thinking about what we are going to say. We just react without weighing our
thoughts. Unfortunately our reaction at times may even be out of anger, because
we have not been swift to hear, slow to speak, and slow to wrath.
Do you count yourself among those that speak without
knowing the entire situation? I think most of us do at some time. How could we
not? Only God knows everything.
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